Back from the Dead: A “Stinker” Post

I am so sorry that this poor little blog has been so neglected for a while now. It reminds me of so many plants that I’ve remembered just a little too late and discovered just a little too dead.

The truth is, though, I haven’t forgotten Twirling Leaf. I have had to make the deliberate choice to let it fall by the way side since I went back to work (which only coincided with a certain sister of mine visiting town; it certainly was not causal. I say this to clear her of any and all blame).

SO these things–work and school–that have been keeping me busy deserve some description on my blog, I think.

Work has been really difficult. My heart is not in my job at all. This makes it really difficult to do it well. The only thing that keeps me doing the work is the fact that I know it’s the best for our little family right now. Collin has helped to ease the burden tremendously by helping me with various projects when possible. Ultimately, though, it falls on my shoulders because I am the one employed by my organization. I am responsible for the work, and this definitely has bearing on how stressful I perceive my job to be.

One very bright spot in the world of my work is that Collin, Jessica, and Shane (along with Senya and me) will be working together at the APA’s annual conference in Boston. It will be great to have such wonderful company for the whole week of work! I love traveling with friends; even if it is work-related, having a good crew of people surrounding me will make it fun. And SHANE! He will be back from South Africa so soon. This makes me very happy.

Another bright spot has been the recent return of my friend Erin to work. Erin had been on maternity leave the whole first month that I was back at work. Now that Erin is back it is much more bearable to be there three days a week. She and I share the same work schedule and we share an office. So, having her there is a major improvement.

School has been going well. I decided to take a bold step; I emailed someone who has become my personal hero in the world of HIV/AIDS research in Kenya. She emailed me back within a day! We have developed a great rapport over email, and she has been very helpful in giving me resources for my research trip in January. I am probably going to go meet her at some point to talk face to face about her research in Kenya. She lives in Windsor, Canada, so we have to wait for Senya’s passport to arrive before we could travel there together.

I am so impressed by this person’s work. She and her fellow researchers developed an HIV/AIDS and sex education program that has been highly effective at enhancing adolescents’ self-efficacy in their ability to abstain or negotiate for safe(r) sex.The program has been so effective that the Kenyan government adopted her program as the national HIV/AIDS and sex education primary school curriculum. She was very encouraging about our project in the Kwale District, though, because she said that the need still exists there to customize an HIV/AIDS and sex education program. Kwale is culturally distinct from most of Kenya; I was happy to hear that someone who has done years of research confirmed that our efforts are not wasted at targeting this region with this type of intervention.

I am almost done my core requirements for my Master’s! In fact, my school life for the next 3 months is like this:

–finish up my fall classes in the next couple of weeks
–apply for research approval from the institutional review board by December 3
–take my comprehensive exams as soon as classes end
–go to Kenya for January

Right now, I am on vacation in LA with Darby, Jason, Lyric, Oliver, Collin and Senya. It has been so healing to my soul to rest and relax. I had a difficult time letting go at first; Jason remedied this by calling me “Felton” any time I was doing work instead of relaxing and having fun. Bam. That cured me.

Family Life: Senya is amazing. She is a gift, a light, and a beautiful person. I am so glad that I get to be her mother. I just LOVE being with her. Our time together is precious to me, and I love the addition of her to our family. Watching Collin as a father is really cool, too. It’s a new dimension of him that I have never known until now. It’s amazing to discover a completely new facet of the person that I’ve known so well and loved for so long. Sen and Zuri love each other so much, too. It is so cute to see how they relate to one another. Zuri definitely gets the most laughs from Sen in the family. Collin and I are both a little jealous about this.

So, that’s my update “stinker” post (a term coined by Jase for posts that are basic updates). Jase says that I should just post even when it can’t be an essay with references or a fantastic story or whatever. I am hoping that this stinker post has now served to update my readers. Now maybe I can blog with some regularity without feeling like there too much to say.

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9 Responses to Back from the Dead: A “Stinker” Post

  1. jason says:

    The leaf is back and twirlier than evah! Love the stinker posts, and yeah, that Senya is truly a special little girl. So lucky to be spending time with her (and you and Collin too I suppose.)

  2. Erin says:

    Awww, thanks, Linds! What a nice surprise to see my name in your blog. I hate that work is a blight on your life, which in all other ways is so exciting and satisfying. Your description of work really resonated with me because I feel very much the same way. I am so glad that we are working the same schedule now and can help each other get through it. I’m happy to hear you’re having a wonderful vacation and hope this therapeutic escape from routine has lasting effects! 🙂

    • Lindsay says:

      Of course you get a shout-out, Erin! Since you returned to the APA, it has been much better! You keep me sane! Having a friend who sees the craziness for what it is so refreshing.

  3. Jessic says:

    welcome back, Linds! and I don’t think that “stinker” posts are stinkers at all. your life is so full and lovely to read about, whenever you care to share. seriously.

    How amazing that you have connected with the researcher/personal hero from Windsor. Linds–this feels meant to be. Plus, way to go on having the courage to write her in the first place.

    so glad that you’re where you are right now. physically AND emotionally.

    and haha I love that Darb gets her record expunged.

    • Lindsay says:

      Thank you, Jessic, for reading and appreciating the stinker posts!

      Yes, I am SO excited about the researcher person that has been reaching out to me. I’m so glad that I took that step out to write to her; now I even wish I had done it sooner!

  4. Sare says:

    Linds!!! i too, love reading about your life when you have time to write..you guys have a beautiful life. I am so happy that Darb got to visit you guys and have such special time with you all and i am so glad that you guys get to be out there right now..having a peaceful and restful time!!! you guys deserve that soo much!!!! hope you guys have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!! love, Sare

    • Lindsay says:

      Sare, you are such a good friend. Thanks for your never-ceasing encouragement and friendship. It means SO much to have good friends who are still there even in the midst of all this craziness of my life right now.

  5. mom says:

    i love seeing your blog again linds…but, okay,,,,,felton….?…

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